The Women’s Thing Or Fly Fishing

Posted by on Tuesday, Feb 17, 2015 in Blog | 0 comments

One of the things I enjoy most about Peter’s heart is his humility. A well respected heart doctor usually has people answering to him, learning from him but Peter is very open about his theological journey and challenging his views about women. I use the word challenging because if you spend any time with Peter “I am learning” is what comes out of his mouth the most. He is always open to figuring out what Jesus really meant in the Scriptures. Him and Linda have been on a journey together – figuring out how to search the Scriptures and come to a consensus (when they have differing views). How do we navigate differences with those whom we don’t agree? What happens when a father, sister, wife or husband disagrees with you? That’s part of what Peter and Linda will be sharing with us at the Summit. The idea behind the Marcella Summit is simple, men and women coming together to learn, to discuss, to share, to be challenged, to challenge, to disagree and to listen. Our great desire for this annual event is create an environment where MEN and women, TOGETHER, work through the reality of Genesis 1:27 seeking informed answers together. I wondered if men would come but am most encouraged to see them signing up every week. One of the men who will be here seeking and searching and discussing is Dr. Peter Wells. Today we get a little peek behind the man into his heart and journey…   Dr. Pete Wells’ Thoughts When I first met Linda I knew I had found a partner… … We each grew up Presbyterian, but met at a Bible Church we attended in Dallas. We had both been taught by pastors that although men and women were equal, their roles were different: God had called men to lead and women to submit. This should have bothered me, separate but equal, but I just took their word for it; after all, it seemed pretty clear that the roles of elder and pastor were reserved for men? Then about 9 years ago, one of our elders gave Linda a pre-publication manuscript of a book that questioned this assumption, written by a husband and wife with ties to Dallas seminary. Linda, being a natural-born leader and learner was enthusiastic about reading and studying more, and she read book after book. She would share with me what she was learning, and my response, sadly, was something to the tune of- that’s cool she has this as a hobby. I have fly fishing- she has this women’s issue thing. When we discussed it, she suggested that I look into it myself, not just accept what I had been told...

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Surviving Being Married To An Alpha Woman

Posted by on Thursday, Jan 22, 2015 in Blog | 2 comments

“How are you surviving being married to an Alpha girl?” Recently I caught up with my wife in Michigan where she was training preachers and preaching. She has had an intense run of it here to start the New Year and I like to catch up, when I can, to carry her bags, fetch water or whatever she may need. Our kids would say I’m there to make sure she finds her way home, as Jackie is known to pour herself out to the point of delirium. Hint, don’t ride in the car with her after a long intense weekend of ministry…. you will find yourself quietly humming Nearer My God To Thee! So I’m sitting in the seats of this wonderful little church when this man taps my shoulder and asks me “how I am surviving being married to an Alpha girl? I hesitated for a minute; I have never thought of Jackie with that label, to me she is a passionate gifted woman with extraordinary gifts. Then I responded that we are thriving quite well thank you, as we are both what the world might call “Alpha types” and we enjoy bouncing off of each other. But I cautioned, when it’s good it’s very good, when its bad…well then I would step back a ways. After a chuckle and a pause he responded that he had never heard of two “alpha” types being married; it had never occurred to him that Jackie could be intentional and intense without me being somehow, well – meek and mild. Why do people always assume...

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Convene, Question, Connect

Posted by on Monday, Jan 5, 2015 in Blog | 0 comments

Whether it’s in marriage, work, or our faith communities, we struggle to know what it means to be female and male, together bringing forth God’s kingdom. With permission I share one woman’s story. How do you handle 1 Timothy 2:12 where it states, “I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet?” A couple of months ago my dad – who, at times struggles with unbelief – started attending a men’s Bible study. The Book of Job was brought up in discussion. My dad asked, “If God cannot be in front of sin, then why can Satan be in his presence?” (Job 1:6-12) Needless to say, his question didn’t go over well. One man told my father “the Bible study was for believers not for doubters.” He continued with “the Church is a place for faithful individuals not men who come to sow doubt in people.” My father stopped attending.     So I decided to invite my father over to study the Bible together. He could ask whatever he wanted and together we would try and find the answers… now other men and their sons want to join our study… I don’t know how to handle this. I felt ok studying with dad … but I’m not so sure what to do with these other men, especially after reading the Timothy passage.    My heart is incredibly heavy for these men (and my own husband and sons) who want to study with us.  But again, I don’t want to go against the Lord.” When I read 1 Timothy 2: 12 I feel like my hands are tied. How do you read that passage? How did you get set free to just teach, anywhere to anyone? Here’s how one professor responded. Dear Jackie, … I believe it would be encouraging for the person struggling with 1 Timothy 2:12 to know that in each instance where the verb AUTHENTEO is used in Greek to mean “to assume authority” the authority that is assumed is authority that the person assuming it does not rightfully have.. Consequently, this verse does not prohibit women, like Priscilla, who have recognized authority to teach a man, as Luke affirms in Acts 18:26, from using their recognized authority to teach a man. It only prohibits women from assuming authority to teach men that they do not rightfully have.   …Furthermore, this prohibition is directed to women in the church of Ephesus in the then currently on-going crisis of women being deceived by false teachers (cf. the first full paragraph of the letter, the summary of the false teaching as “old wives tales” and Chapter 5:13-15. The present indicative of the verb “I...

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I’m Female But More Like A Man

Posted by on Tuesday, Nov 4, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

She asked if we could meet. As we sat across the table for lunch, she asked, “What does the Bible have to say about women in leadership?” I could tell by her body language this was not a theoretical question, but rather something that was causing her angst. She continued to share what had happened at work and how she was confused by the mixed messages she’d received. She didn’t realize it, but I knew that she had encountered two different views on the role of women – what it means to be a Biblical woman. Worse yet, both people sending the messages were Christian business leaders whom she deeply respected. Here’s the deal. She loves her job and her bosses and was excited about the new opportunity to train other women to become effective leaders. But she’s hit a wall of confusion – exactly what did that mean? To be a woman of faith and a woman leader? On the one hand she’s hearing from her female friend who is a CEO of a fortune 500 company and married with children. Her friend is passionate about helping other women in the workforce learn how intergrade their faith, family, and work. On the other hand, her boss believes it’s best for women to stay home once they’ve had children. And he had set ideas of what a woman leader “looked like.” Upon her new job opportunity he said, “We’re not interested in any ‘hear me roar – beat your chest’ women. We want women to learn to lead as women – women are more nurturing and gentle, etc.” It was obvious this young woman across my table desperately wanted to “get it right.” Alas, why she came to me saying, “I don’t know any woman who knows the Scriptures as well as you do. What does the Bible say?” (I know she meant it as a compliment, but to be honest, I was deeply saddened by the statement. She should know many women to turn to!) We didn’t have much time. I started with Genesis. That man and woman were made to be co-rulers over God’s kingdom. I moved to the Gospel – what Jesus accomplished on the cross and at the tomb. But ultimately my focus went to Jesus. I reminded her that the Bible doesn’t address what it means to be a Biblical woman. The Bible calls us to be “Christ followers.” That’s our call. And that means “eyes on Jesus.” He’s the best leader I know, so if I were she, I wouldn’t try to figure out “how a woman leads” but rather “how Jesus leads.” And I’d do that. Follow him around. Then do what...

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